Online Trauma & Attachment Therapy for Women In Washington
For women in Washington who need depth, privacy, and the right distance
"What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would split open." Muriel Rukeyser
You can live among trees and water and still feel watched by your own nervous system.
You can live somewhere that looks like breathing room and still not feel much room inside yourself.
The Eastside has a particular quality to it. The mountains when the sky is clear. Lake Washington.
The kind of professional life that looks, from the outside, like arrival. You’ve built something real here. That isn’t the question.
The question is what’s still running underneath it that the building didn’t touch.
You’ve probably already looked. Opened a few profiles in Bellevue, Seattle, Kirkland. Read the bios. Someone always seems almost right, and then there’s the other problem: your world here is more networked than its size suggests.
Tech. Medicine. Law. Mental health.
Everyone is two connections from everyone else. The hospital system, the Microsoft campus, the legal community, the therapy world itself, they overlap in ways that make the usual options feel like a risk you’re not willing to take.
You don’t want to manage proximity in the room where you’re supposed to stop managing everything.
What you need is someone with the right clinical depth. Someone trained in EMDR, Brainspotting, and clinical hypnosis, who works at the level this kind of therapy actually requires, and who exists entirely outside your ecosystem.
That’s what this is.
This Is Usually More Than One Thing
No one would guess how much your body still tracks. The pause in someone's voice. The email that lands differently than it should. The subtle shift in closeness.
The amount of energy it takes to stay level when something small brushes against something old.
Most of the women who find their way here aren’t falling apart in obvious ways. They’re functioning. Professionally respected. Often the ones who hold the most for others, patients, clients, colleagues, causes, while having very little infrastructure for what they hold privately.
Strong values around equity and care for others can coexist with a complicated relationship to your own needs.
It’s often easier to advocate fiercely for someone else than to take up space for yourself in a room. What doesn't show from the outside is how much is still being managed internally. How much vigilance has come to feel like baseline.
How difficult it is to fully exhale in a relationship. How quickly something old can organize the moment before you've registered what happened.
And usually it’s not just one thing.
Trauma is often here.
Sometimes named clearly. Sometimes it took years to call it what it actually was.
Attachment is usually part of it too.
What your nervous system learned early about closeness, need, and what happened when you wanted something you weren't sure you were allowed to want.
And grief moves quietly through the whole thing.
Not only grief after loss, but grief over what never fully arrived. What your body still had to find a way around. That’s often the deeper architecture underneath the life that looks, from the outside, like it should feel easier by now.
Where It Still Lives
You may have already done therapy. Good therapy at one point, even. Work that helped you understand patterns and build some language around what happened.
And still something stayed untouched.
That’s not a failure of insight. It’s a feature of how this material is stored.
Trauma and attachment wounds don’t live only in the narrative. They live in the body, in the nervous system, in the patterns that keep organizing the present long after the original conditions are over. Talking about it reaches a certain layer.
This work goes further.
EMDR: Trauma doesn’t store the way ordinary experience does. It can stay activated, close to the surface, easy to trigger. A familiar feeling that pulls you out of the present before you have understood why.
EMDR works at the level where that experience is still unfinished, helping the nervous system process and complete what it could not at the time. I hold certification through EMDRIA.
Brainspotting: Hypervigilance that feels like baseline did not begin as a thought. It began as a body response. Brainspotting helps locate what is held there, below narrative and often below conscious awareness, and process what is held at that level. I’m a listed Brainspotting therapist through Brainspotting.com.
Trauma-Informed Clinical Hypnosis: Some of what still runs, the anxiety, the protective patterns, the deeply held beliefs about yourself and what you are allowed to need, operates below conscious awareness. In a focused state of attention, those layers can become more available to the work. I’m certified through the National Board for Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists.
Somatic, attachment-based, psychodynamic, and IFS-informed approaches are woven through all of it, used in response to what actually shows up
Why Women in Washington Choose to Do This Work Online
For a lot of women, this isn’t about convenience.
It’s about privacy. Depth. And not having your therapy sit anywhere near the rest of your life.
No waiting room. No running into someone you know. No managing the possibility that your therapist shares a professional orbit with you, or knows someone who does.
You close a door in Bellevue, Seattle, Kirkland, or wherever you are in Washington, and the work begins. EMDR, Brainspotting, trauma-informed clinical hypnosis, and somatic and attachment-based work all translate fully online. Your body is still in the session.
What moves in this work moves regardless of where you’re sitting.
Some women find they go deeper faster. Not because the work is different, but because less energy is spent managing everything around it.
What Often Lives Around This
"The things we want are transformative, and we don't know or only think we know what is on the other side of that transformation." Rebecca Solnit, A Field Guide to Getting Lost
Anxiety
It doesn’t always look like anxiety from the outside. It looks like preparedness. Staying three steps ahead.
But underneath it’s a nervous system that never fully received the signal that it could stop scanning. That has a cost. And it accumulates.
Perfectionism
Not the kind that drives results. The kind that makes the results feel like nothing once they arrive. The internal standard that exists independently of what you have actually built, what you have accomplished, what anyone else can see.
The gap between those two things is where a lot of exhaustion lives.
People Pleasing
An adaptation that outlived its original conditions. The reading of rooms. The management of other people’s comfort before your own needs have even registered.
The version of yourself you’ve never quite brought all the way forward because you learned early that it was safer not to.
HSP Therapy
The intensity of your inner life has never been the problem. What was missing was a space built for it, one that doesn’t ask you to turn it down or explain it away.
This work doesn’t pathologize the way you’re wired. It works with it.
Therapy for Therapists
You understand the process from the inside. You know what good work looks like and what it requires. Which can make it harder, not easier, to find a space where you get to be the one who does not have to hold anything.
This can be that space.
FAQ: Online Trauma and Attachment Therapy in Washington
Are you licensed in Washington?
Yes, I hold an active Washington state license (#MHC.LH.70063917) through the Washington State Department of Health. Online therapy is available to women across Washington.
Why do some women in Washington choose a therapist outside their local area?
For some, it’s about privacy. For most, it’s about fit, which can include privacy for women who move in smaller circles. Many want a therapist with specific depth in trauma and attachment work, without the overlap that can come with local professional communities.
In a professionally networked region like the Eastside or Seattle, the overlap between your world and a local therapist’s world can be closer than it should be. Distance is not a workaround. For many women here, it’s the condition that makes full honesty possible.
What cities in Washington do you serve?
I work online with women across Washington, including Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland, Redmond, Mercer Island, Sammamish, Tacoma, Spokane, and everywhere in between.
I’ve done therapy before and something always stayed untouched. How is this different?
This work goes to where that material is actually stored: the nervous system, the body, and the relational patterns that formed early.
EMDR, Brainspotting, and clinical hypnosis reach layers that insight and conversation alone do not always access. If something has stayed stuck despite good work, that’s often why.
Is online therapy effective for trauma and attachment work?
Yes, EMDR, Brainspotting, and clinical hypnosis all work online. The depth of the work is the same. Being in your own space often removes a layer of effort and logistics that can make it harder to begin.
Do you work with therapists and other professionals?
Yes, a significant part of my practice is working with therapists, physicians, attorneys, and other professionals who want depth, discretion, and a therapist outside their immediate world. You don’t have to explain that dynamic here. It’s already understood.
How do I get started?
The first step is scheduling a consultation. We can talk about what’s bringing you to therapy, and see whether this feels like the right fit.
The right therapist may not be the one nearby.
She may be the first place in a long time your nervous system doesn't have to account for the rest of your life.
Online therapy for women across Washington.