Childhood Trauma Therapy In San Antonio For Adults

Healing What You Had to Carry Alone

Attachment-Focused Therapy for the Parts of You That Still Feel Small

The body remembers what the mind learned to forget.

Childhood trauma doesn’t just fade with time.

It shapes how you think, love, and respond to stress. Whether it was emotional neglect or abuse, inconsistent caregiving, criticism, parentification, or chaos in the home, growing up walking on eggshells, your nervous system adapted to survive.

As an adult, those old survival responses, freeze, flight, fight, fawn, or hypervigilance, may still quietly drive how you cope, connect, and protect yourself.

Childhood trauma therapy using an attachment-focused trauma lens, helps you begin to understand and work with those patterns, so that safety no longer has to mean shutting down or staying in a constant state of anxiety.

Begin releasing what your younger self carries
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Childhood Trauma Therapy for Thinkers, Feelers, & Deep Processors

For The Ones Who Always Give a Little Extra: Shouldering the Load for Years

As a trauma and attachment therapist in San Antonio, I’m here to help you repair childhood wounds and find real, lasting peace. I use trauma-informed approaches like EMDR, Brainspotting, Hypnotherapy, and Attachment-Focused Therapy, each tailored to work at your nervous system’s pace.

You’ve built a life you’re proud of, a career, a family, a world that looks, on the outside, like you have it all. But inside? It’s a different story.

Early experiences often shape the patterns we carry into adulthood. You can explore more about healing attachment and self-worth through Attachment and People Pleasing.

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The Invisible Weight of Childhood Trauma

You didn’t realize how much childhood trauma still shapes you. How could you? You survived. You adapted.

You became the fixer, the peacekeeper, the quiet leader, the rule follower with a rebellious edge on the inside. The witty one who kept the mood light so things wouldn’t fall apart.

You made it okay for everyone else, often at the cost of your own peace.

But that constant effort to hold it all together? It always comes at a cost.

The Price of Survival: Where You’re Feeling It

The endless balancing act. The to-do lists. The people pleasing, perfectionism, and over-functioning, all ways your nervous system learned how to cope.

Now you’re starting to feel the effects:

In Relationships. At Work. In Parenting. And In the Quiet Moments Alone.

All the roles you’ve had to play, the expectations you’ve met, the love you’ve given. It’s been a lot to carry. You’ve poured so much into others that sometimes it feels like no one truly sees what it takes to keep showing up.

The Ghosts of Childhood Trauma

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They don’t always look what you’d expect. They look like:

  • Overthinking conversations, replaying them in your mind like old tapes on a loop.

  • People pleasing, perfecting, and overperforming, exhausted but still pushing because you don’t know how not to.

  • Grieving a childhood that never felt safe or one that never truly was one.

  • Staying busy because slowing down means feeling everything your body has worked so hard to suppress.

And underneath it all, the question: Who am I if I’m not taking care of everyone else?

It’s a cycle that doesn’t seem to stop, even when you want it to.

The Child in You Still Deserves Care. The Adult in You Knows It’s Time

You tell yourself:

➳ It wasn’t that bad.

➳ Other people have had it worse.

➳ I should be over this by now.

➳ I turned out fine.

➳ I have a lot; I should be grateful.

➳ But I’ve accomplished a lot.

The truth is, you weren’t meant to carry the emotional weight of your family, yet you did.

You weren’t meant to shrink or feel invisible, unsafe, or unloved.

Therapy helps your nervous system release the patterns that kept you in survival mode, so you can build safety, self-trust, and connection that lasts.

You can have the peace, confidence, and presence you’ve always wanted. Your story no longer gets to decide how close or how far you stay, from life, others, and from yourself.

“If it’s out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind, too.” Ivan Nuru

You Made Sense: Your Environment Didn’t

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You had a tender heart.

You still do.

But growing up in an environment that didn’t nurture you meant you learned to read the room before you read yourself.

Childhood trauma doesn’t stay back then. It lingers. It shapes the way you move through the world, how you show up, how you cope, how you protect yourself.

The survival strategies that once kept you safe, people pleasing, perfectionism, always anticipating what others need, worked once but now they’re working overtime and it’s exhausting.

Even when you try to push it all down, it bubbles up.

➳ In the exhaustion that never quite lifts.

➳ In the constant self-doubt and second-guessing that chips away at your confidence.

➳ In the fear that everything you’ve worked so hard for could come crashing down.

But the truth is: You were never too much. You were just in a world that didn’t know how to care for you.

Begin healing the parts of you that had to grow up too soon

Breaking the Cycle as a Parent

You promised yourself you would never allow your children to feel what you felt, unseen, unheard, unsafe.

But that promise weighs on you.

  • You overanalyze. Am I getting it right? Are they okay? Am I giving them enough love? Too much?

  • You feel that pressure to be perfect because you know what not to do but figuring out what to do. That’s harder.

  • You’re drained from pouring everything you have into them, yet the thought of taking time for yourself creates so much guilt.

  • You’re hyper-aware of their emotions, every sigh, every frown, every silence. You’re doing everything you can to protect them.

But when you're the protector of everyone else, who shows up for you?

What if breaking the cycle isn’t about being perfect?

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What if it’s about healing yourself so you can show up with presence, not pressure?

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You’re Thriving on Paper.
Paying for It in Silence

You’ve built the career. Earned the title. On paper you’re thriving.

But behind the scenes? It’s another story.

  • You feel stuck in perfectionistic mode, pushing hard because failure still feels like danger.

  • You say yes far too often, taking on more than your share, because disappointing people feels like a risk you can’t afford.

  • You feel like an imposter. That little voice whispering: What if they figure out I’m not really that good?

  • You leave work completely drained, because you’re not just working; you’re feeling it all, too.

But here’s the truth: You don’t have to sacrifice your well-being for success.

You’re allowed to be both accomplished and at peace.

Attachment Trauma and Relationships

You Want Love, But It Feels Complicated

You long for connection. Closeness. Love that feels safe.

But instead, love feels like a risk, one that keeps your nervous system on high alert.

Trust feels too fragile, even in healthy relationships. Waiting for the other shoe to drop is a reflex.

You people please to keep the peace, swallowing your needs to make yourself easier to love.

Some days, you cling tightly, needing constant reassurance.

Or your pattern may be to pull back, afraid of getting hurt or someone getting too close.

Worry follows you, about your kids, your relationships, your work, and whether you take up too much space, or not enough.

Deep down, you wonder: Would they still love me if I stopped trying so hard?

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You deserve bonds where you feel safe to show up fully, without shrinking, proving, perfecting, or pretending.

How Childhood Trauma Therapy in San Antonio Can Help

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You don’t have to keep living inside the patterns trauma taught you. You can break free from it. You can heal.

Counseling for childhood trauma can help you:

  • Understand the root of your struggles so you can set down the weight that was handed to you.

  • Release old wounds and survival responses, and change patterns through trauma-informed approaches like EMDR, Brainspotting, Trauma-Informed Hypnotherapy, and Attachment-Focused Therapy.

  • Work with the younger parts of you still carrying fear, shame, and responsibility that were never yours. Through inner child and parts work, those protective and hurt parts begin to trust that safety and calm are possible now.

  • Break intergenerational trauma in a way that’s attuned to your capacity and limits.

  • Regain a sense of who you are, beyond the parent, partner, professional, and peacekeeper.

  • Set boundaries with confidence, trust yourself again, and live in your body with ease and presence.

Healing is about giving yourself the love, safety, and care you always deserved, and still do.

With support, your nervous system can relearn what calm feels like, and your story no longer has to decide how deeply you let yourself live and connect.

You’ve Always Been Enough. You Just Haven’t Had the Space to Feel It.

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Childhood trauma doesn’t just haunt your past. It tries to shape your future. But now, you get to lead the way in your own story.

As a parent, you can break the cycle without losing yourself in the process.

As a professional, you can succeed without perfectionism holding the pen.

As a partner, you can love fully, without fear dictating your steps.

It’s about rediscovering who you’ve been all along. The version of you that’s open, confident, capable of joy, loves more fully, and stands more fully in who you are.

FAQ: Childhood Trauma Therapy

  • Many people minimize their childhood pain because it didn’t look dramatic or “big” traumatic. But neglect, abuse, emotional invalidation, constant criticism, or having to parent your parents can deeply shape your nervous system and sense of self.

    If you struggle with anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, or feeling unworthy. These can all be rooted in PTSD & trauma or unresolved attachment wounds. Therapy helps you connect the dots with compassion and clarity.

  • It’s natural to feel afraid; your survival strategies protected you for a long time. As a trauma and attachment therapist, I don’t push you to relive everything at once. We move at your pace, with a focus on safety and nervous system regulation. You get to choose what to share and when. Healing happens gently, in layers.

  • I draw from research-backed, evidence-based trauma therapies like EMDR, Brainspotting, Trauma-Informed Hypnosis, and Attachment-Focused Therapy. These therapies help you process old memories in a way that feels safe and empowering, so you can release the past without being retraumatized.

  • Not necessarily. Some trauma work doesn’t require detailed retelling. We focus on how the trauma lives in your body and mind today, and we use tools and therapies that help your nervous system find calm and safety - without forcing you to revisit every painful detail.

  • Both! I see clients in my San Antonio office and online, and also offer secure online therapy anywhere in Texas. You choose what feels most comfortable and supportive for you.

Ready to Begin Childhood Trauma Therapy in San Antonio?

You’ve done what you needed to survive. Now it’s time to learn what it feels like to truly live.

Even the heaviest stories can begin to rest when they’re finally shared.

Schedule your free phone consultation today, and take the first step toward the peace and connection you’ve been longing for.

Heal what hurt you without reliving it

➳ Prefer meeting online? I work with clients across Texas.

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